AskMen.com has an interesting article about how to adjust to moving in with your significant other. I forwarded it on to my beau Carlos because he and I just must in with each other a month ago and while I've adjust physically to living in the new space, we are both still adjusting to sharing our lives together this intimately. While the article had a lot of really good points about adjusting to each other's mood, developing on one's space and privacy and actively keeping up the romance and sex, I feel a bit strange about the fact that the author of the article claims to have lived with several girlfriends at this point. To me, I take that as he's had several failures. Does that make him an expert? Has he gained wisdom from these experiences? However, he has enough good advice that I didn't question the legitimacy of the article. He ends the article asking men to keep the romance alive and to continue to develop the friendship that is part of the relationship. I think this is really crucial. A woman can start to feel taken for granted especially if her man is used to her constant availability. She has to feel special otherwise she'll feel trapped.
Why am I as a woman reading this article on AskMen.com about relationship advice? Because women's magazines and sites are fluff. At AskMen.com, they are not afraid to post articles about real issues and not just the same recycled articles about the 100 ways to have a mind-blowing orgasm. And until sites like Jezebel.com start offering relationship advice, I'm sticking with AskMen.com.
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I have to admit, knowing the author has lived with several different women would give me pause when it came to taking his advice! At any rate, I must say I have never actually lived with a significant other, and the prospect does seem frightening to me. Oh, I have obviously lived with women--my sister and a platonic roommate--but I would imagine romance complicates things!
In general, those sound like good suggestions. "Space & privacy" are important, which also means maintaining friendships & activities of one's own. In a way, that goes along with the friendship aspect of the romantic relationship--each partner wants the other to have a full life as any friend would want for another.
Anyway, just my 2 cents! Being open with each other may be most important of all, & sharing information like the article is one way of practicing that. Good for you.
Mercurie/Terry - It shouldn't frighten you. It's quite a wonderful experience. Especially if it's with the right person.
John - I like what you said about living a full life and wanting that for your significant other. That's so true. I love how Carlos and I support each other's individual interests and I know that you and Eberle do the same.
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I got three responses to this post, all from men (one from Tommy via Twitter)!
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